Sex, Love, and Intimacy Coaching

Trouble in the bedroom? Confused about your sexual preference or identity? Difficulties communicating your needs and wants with your partner? Curious about expanding your sexual horizon? Do you keep attracting or getting attracted to the "wrong" kind of people? You just want to make sure that you are sexually compatible before committing big time?

Whatever it is, if it is related to sex, love, relationship, or intimacy, we can most likely help you! But, first, you need to really want growth or be willing to change.

Our Coaching sessions are client focused, goal oriented, and dynamic in nature. That means, instead of relying on diagnosis and prescription, we help our clients regain their inner wisdom and their unique sexual power via conversation, information giving, forgiving and letting go, and home assignments.

Trained as Sexologists (not as Sex Therapists), we pride ourselves on non-judgmental, non-blaming, non-victimizing approach. Because we provide Sex Coaching, not Sex Therapy, our goal is to encourage you and guide you to where you want to go, not to dwell on where you have been. For this reason, you can expect much quicker results than therapy, however, if you are not ready to be honest, own your behavior or belief system and change your current way, you will not benefit from our services.

We mostly work with clients face to face, however, we do offer over the phone coaching and email consultations for our long distance clients.

So, are you ready? We understand that it might be scary to jump in. Please remember, we have heard and seen it all, so you cannot shock us.

Imagine your life filled with love, intimacy, and satisfactory sexual pleasure and energy. Please give us a call or email us to schedule your initial session.

" Nick and Sayaka helped me get over my past trauma and moved me into healthy expression of my sexuality. Thank you!!"

"I had a coaching session with Sayaka to brush up my intimacy skills to be with a man since it's been so long! I had a really educational session filled with detailed description (and of course, we laughed a lot!), and my first intimate encounter with a man in a few years went really smoothly and sensually."

"My wife and I love each other dearly, but our sexuality was always our problem area. Nick and Sayaka gave us great ideas, interesting homework, and no-bull**** but kind way of confronting us with our crap, and now, we are happier than ever!"

"Nick and Sayaka helped me realize that I am OK..well, more than OK...I am me, and I am happy with myself and my sexuality! Thank you so much!"

15 Relationship Mistakes Women Make

It's said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So, yes, we know that snooping around our S.O.'s email account is a bad idea and that believing in the fairy-tale love stories we grew up reading is silly, but sometimes we find ourselves giving these relationship moves the ol' college try! The results? Not so successful. Plus, we start to feel unbalanced, and perhaps rightly so.

This point is this: there are certain relationship mistakes women make over and over again. Like sleeping in a bad position and waking with a stiff neck, we sometimes don't realize we're blundering and repeating until the ouch factor comes into play. Well, it's time to stop. We're declaring once and for all: let's quit! Quitters sometimes prosper, especially when lousy habits get left behind. Here's the list of relationship blunders we wish we ladies would stop making.

1. Thinking we'll never get over him. We will. Two months and several powdered donuts later... we'll feel better. Read: Dumped? 10 Healthy Ways To Heal

2. Hacking into email or phones looking for suspicious messages and then yelling at him for the "k thnx bye" text he sent to his female co-worker two months ago. "k thnx" is not code for "hot steamy sex." (Is it?)

3. Thinking our partners must be interested in everything we do, think and say. When it comes down to it, we zone out when men talk about circuit boards, right? Having a best friend or gab partner outside a relationship is a good thing. Watch: Should My Spouse Be My Best Friend?

4. Displacing. Freud was right with this one. If we're mad at him because he ate our tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge, tell him we're mad at him because he ate our tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge. Don't turn it into a commitment issue.

5. Putting so much energy into the idea of a fairy-tale romance that we're disappointed with anything less. Read: Romantic Comedies Warp Your Brain

6. Waiting for someone to find us, instead of going out and finding someone ourselves.

7. Thinking that a perfect relationship should be easy. Relationships require work and compromise; a perfect relationship means doing those things well.

8. Dropping our friends when we're falling in love. Friends help define who we are, and we need them when things get tough.

9. Thinking that getting a boyfriend or husband will solve all our problems. No one can fix our lives for us! Sound In: How can I learn to not be passive in relationships?

10. Using the silent treatment. Our partners can't read our minds; he won't know what's wrong unless we sack up and tell him.

11. Not asking for what we want in bed. It can be as little as an appreciative moan when he does something good or as much as a frank discussion about our fantasies. Again, he can't read minds, and we'll both benefit from knowing what we find pleasurable.

12. Denying that there's a problem in our marriage or relationship, instead of facing it and asking ourselves what needs to be done. Problems don't usually go away on their own. Letting them fester only makes it worse.

13. Thinking that depending on someone else is a weakness. Leaning on someone else sometimes is the sign of a healthy relationship.

14. Over-analyzing. There's analysis and then there's over-analysis. Wondering why the fiance didn't call once during his bachelor weekend in Vegas? A legitimate case for analysis. Wondering why he only called twice and not three times during a guys' night out? Not so much.

15. Trying to reinvent the relationship wheel. If some items on this list feel cliche, it's because they are! If we would only listen to a good dose of love advice now and again, we'd probably save ourselves some heartache. Read: Love Advice From Mom

Would you date a bad kisser?

I think we've all at some point in our lives encountered a bad kisser. There are so many smooching offenses: too slobbery, too soft, too dry, too rough, too much tongue, a jutting tongue... the horrifying options are endless. You can never tell when someone is going to be a good kisser either, or whether you'll have kissing chemistry.

I've been told I'm a good kisser, but this of course is all relative. I do know that some boyfriends of mine have been better kissers than other at first, but after months of being together the guy's kiss became much more in sync with my own.

One time I met a guy out at a club when I was single on Valentine's Day. Out of nowhere he grabbed me and planted a wet, slobbery kiss ALL OVER MY FACE, sort of like Paris Hilton over there on the right. Gross! That, for me, was a total deal breaker.

If you like a guy and discover he's a really bad kisser, would you stick it out? Would you tell him he needs to work on his kiss, would you hope he'll improve on his own, or would you ditch him and move on?